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Imagine…No More Arguing.Imagine…No More Manipulation.Imagine…Stess Free Parenting.For over fifty years, Jim Fay has worked with shcools, families, and children in the areas of teaching, parenting and discipline. In 1977, along with internationally renowned psychiatrist Dr. Foster W. Cline, he founded the Love and Logic Institute, Inc. which is dedicated to helping parents and educators create responsible kids. We know you will enjoy this book by beloved storyteller and parenting expert, Jim Fay, as he speaks to parents, educators, and community leaders about how to discipline kids without losing their love or respect.
Michele Weiner Davis goes beyond her marriage-saving bestseller, Divorce Busting, with this empowering and encouraging guide for revitalizing marriage and building stronger, more loving bonds. In a down-to-earth style that is free of psychobabble, Weiner Davis outlines a realistic, solution-oriented seven-step program for managing marital problems, which, when left unchecked, can drain the life out of a relationship. Using revealing anecdotes and in-depth case studies, she illustrates practical ways for marriage partners to
- avoid the “divorce trap”
- identify specific marriage-saving goals
- move beyond ineffective, hurtful ways of interacting
- become an expert on “doing what works”
- overcome infidelity, Internet obsessions, depression, sexual problems, and midlife crises
- get your marriage back on track — and keep it there
Rescue your marriage with the proven techniques of The Divorce Remedy — sound, sensible advice from a renowned relationship expert!
The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage
A groundbreaking, counterintuitive parenting approach to create deep, empathic bonds with challenging children
A child and family therapist for more than twenty years, Jennifer Kolari began her career working with children who suffer from severe behavioral problems. That experience taught her an invaluable lesson: It wasn’t “tough” discipline that helped these kids change their behavior and build self-esteem. It was unending compassion and empathy. Now Kolari applies these lessons in her work with all families, teaching them how to take a non-defensive stance through even the most heated moments. Filled with heartfelt advice, Connected Parenting helps parents:
•set limits and change problem behaviors for good
•lower the child’s anxiety level
•stop the endless battles over homework, routines, food, and more
•learn how to keep cool in any situation
Powerful and inspiring, Connected Parenting includes incredible stories from families who have experienced miraculous transformations- often in just a few weeks-using Kolari’s parenting approach. It is a dynamic blueprint for bringing peace and loving connections into any family for life.
Connected Parenting: Set Loving Limits and Build Strong Bonds with Your Child for Life
This article may help you.Your Children Should Not Suffer Because of Divorce
Guiding Your Children Through the Process of Divorce
Divorce is, tragically, a family affair, and the ones who suffer the most are the children of the couple divorcing. That couple must carefully consider the repercussions that their divorce will have on their child or children. These children feel lost and insecure when parents divorce, and don’t think that just because you children are older, they will not feel it as well. Lots of children blame themselves for divorce. Parents must make the transition easy.
One of the best things that you can do for your children is to avoid fighting in front of them, particularly about issues which directly relate to the divorce, such as child support, custody and other related topics. This will only exacerbate the problems that they may have to face in the area of adjustment, and typically forces them to feel as though they need to take “sides” in the divorce.
And never use your children as a pawn in the fight against your spouse. Children suffer irredeemable damage when they have to listen to a parent being constantly criticized. When the criticism is by the other parent, it is very hard for the child to reconcile these two realities.Children are frequently used in custody battles, especially when one spouse wants to hurt the other. It is difficult to believe that a parent loves a child when the parent is able to inflict that kind of pain on the child.
Communication is not always at its best during divorce proceedings, or even after the fact. You must remember, however, that our children are neither messengers nor spies. If you have something to discuss with the other parent, then make direct contact, and keep it civil. In spite of how you may feel about the person, this is also the children’s parent, and they still love that parent, just as they love you.
The change that divorce brings to a child’s life is major and dramatic. Parents have to try to keep other changes at a minimum so the child can adjust gradually to this new life. Try to avoid changing residence or schools, at least for a while. If you are the parent who has to move out of the residence, remember to remind your child(ren) that you are still the parent and will always be there for them. Try to maintain stability in the parts of their lives that have not been touched by divorce. Making sure you keep up with child support is another important aspect of divorce. Their lives have been significantly affected by the divorce
About The Author
Ralph Crainer operates the website and is a writer for Divorce Y which a site dedicated to researching divorce related topics and contains all the very latest divorce news and views. Please visit http://www.divorcey.com if you have any questions or comments concerning this article.
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Love, Limits, & Lessons offers solid common sense solutions for raising capable and cooperative kids in today’s fast-paced world. Designed with the quick reference approach in mind, this book will allow you to turn immediately to the situations you find yourself faced with most often. The suggestions in this guide will teach you how to: – Read your child’s behavior to understand why they act out the way they do. – Talk less, coach and guide more, and create more closeness as a family. – Create boundaries, set agreements, and get the kids to listen more effectively. – Teach your children lasting life lessons and devise a discipline plan that will work.
Love, Limits, & Lessons: A Parent’s Guide To Raising Cooperative Kids
SELF-PARENTING: The Complete Guide to Your Inner Conversations is the classic and original how-to book defining the concept of “self-parenting.” Many of us grew up within a parental environment that did not support our childhood needs for love, support, and nurturing. As adults, we mentally continue the same patterns as an “Inner Parent” that left us feeling alone and abandoned as a child. By beginning the daily practice of positive Self-Parenting, the negative outer parenting patterns taught as a child (and subsequently internalized as an adult) can be recognized and reversed. The foundation of the SELF-PARENTING is the daily practice of the Self-Parenting Exercises, a thirty-minute session of cognitive interaction between the Inner Parent and Inner Child. During these daily half-hour sessions Illustrated In the book, the reader learns how to love, support, and nurture his or her Inner Child as well as increase their awareness of the profound implications of their Inner Conversations in the “real world.”
Here’s a good article I found.You Were Served Divorce Papers? A 3 Day Action Plan
Copyright 2005 The Divorce Center P.A.
* Don’t panic – best decisions are made with a cool, calm head *
Sit down, relax, and read the divorce papers several times. *
Don’t call your spouse in anger – no contact is best for now. *
Read up on divorce – knowledge always helps take the fear away.
* When you finish the above steps, take a short break and then
read all of the divorce papers again until you thoroughly
understand what is ahead. * If you have children, do not draw
them into the conflict. This is best for your children and will
put you in the best position to win custody. * You have 20 days
from the date you received the summons to send an answer. * If
possible, take tomorrow off and devote some thought to the
* You must decide if you will represent yourself or hire an
divorce attorney. * If you want an attorney, start calling and
find one that you like. * If you are a do-it-yourself person,
continue to read about divorce for 7 more days. You have almost
two weeks to act and you must become well informed. * Review the
location and amount of all your assets. If possible, remove
money from the bank and put it in a place of security. Do not
deprive your spouse of necessary funds to live on. That could
backfire on you. * Review your credit cards and any other
sources of credit. If possible, cancel cards that are joint
accounts or remove your spouse’s name from the card. * Speed is
your best tool – be thorough and act today. * Go into
conservation mode and build a rainy day fund. You may soon need
it. * Begin to collect all records of assets, amounts owed,
property, deeds, and family business records. If you are in the
marital home, keep the records in a more secure place, like with
a trusted friend. * Call the IRS to find out how to request
copies of the last 5 years of tax returns – if you don’t already
* Continue your education. This is one of the biggest and most
important projects of your life. Read books and attend seminars.
Become an expert. * Make a financial plan or a household budget
for the next 12 months. Don’t spend unnecessary money. * Get a
notebook and a holder for paperwork. Set up a central collection
point for all the information you gather during your divorce.
Keep a detailed diary and jot down anything you learn from your
About the author:
Howard Iken is a Divorce Attorney.. He represents divorce
clients in Tampa, Clearwater, St. Petersburg, New Port Richey,
Pinellas, Pasco, and Hernando County, Florida. You can contact
Howard Iken at 1-888-4My-Divorce (1-888-469-3486) or visit
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THE REAL PURPOSE OF PARENTING is a series of stories and life lessons from the world of a therapist, known as The Parent Coach. Very well-intentioned, well meaning parents are at the point of crisis with their kids because their own best parenting efforts are NOT producing the children they want them to be. And there, according to Dr. Phil Dembo, lies the problem. In THE REAL PURPOSE OF PARENTING, even the best parents are capable of smothering the growth of their kid’s life. This can happen because the truth of who the child is, and what the child truly needs is often overlooked or ignored in the agenda that many parents lay out for their kids. Thus…often landing the family in a colossal melt down.
Dr. Dembo shows simple family “turn around” strategies that reframe the real purpose of parenting and gives each family, and child their own salvation.
The Real Purpose of Parenting: The Book You Wish Your Parents Read
Here’s a good article I found.You CAN Find Life AFTER DIVORCE
It’s All About Change
One of the most radical and often devastating changes that a
person may experience is the change accompanying a divorce. But
you don’t have to flounder through it all alone. What if you had
help charting a course to the life you truly wanted to live?
What if you could leverage this time of change to create the
life of your dreams? What if you received support and guidance
through the transition from pain and confusion to thriving in
your new life?
I can help.
At the core, my work with people revolves around creating
effective change – I am a skilled change agent moving clients
through the often choppy waters of a complex life.
Many of the women I work with have been through divorce and are
trying to work through the complexity of putting the past behind
them, identifying the resources they have and those they need to
help them move forward. They are working towards a renewal of
their personal power and are interested in building
self-confidence. Often they are faced with upgrading their
employment skills or entering the work force for the first time
when they are faced with financial pressures. Some are learning
what it means to be alone and reestablishing the confidence of
independence. Although it can be an extremely confusing, often
overwhelming time, the hidden silver lining is that it can also
be a potent time to restructure, revision and recreate a life
based on principles that can bring you the fulfillment and
excitement you desire. My goal in working with you is to help
you better understand the steps needed to get you there!
I went though a divorce as a young adult with no support and
know first hand the difficulty that many people go through when
they are trying to rebuild a positive and fulfilling life after
all of the “legal dust” has settled. I experienced first hand
how difficult and painful the rebuilding process can be with no
support. My experience coupled with over 18 years of helping
people navigate complex change establishes my ability as a
trusted change agent in developing a satisfying life after
I am so blessed to do this work because in it I participate in
the process of real and substantive positive change in the lives
of my clients. What a remarkable, real and inspiring
undertaking. It calls on me to bring myself totally present with
each of my client calls. It expands my capacity for
understanding and recognition of the amazing opportunity we each
have to affect not only our own lives but that of the planet as
a whole. It shows me and my clients over and over again the
unique qualities each of us possess and how precious those
qualities are. If each of us truly understood that our very
being ness is exactly what our lives and the lives of others
require to thrive would we hold back anything? Would we allow
the next moment to happen, move into it and meet it fully? Would
we bring our whole selves forward on this adventure of life?
That is what real living is about – not holding back from each
individual moment whether it holds great joy or sorrow but
having the willingness to live it fully. Each moment is a moment
of change and that change can be profoundly moving if we
participate in it fully.
In this article I will be outlining several ways for you to get
started on your own right now.
Hopefully you already have the support of family and friends.
But finding the RIGHT kind of support is what is key here.
Often, unfortunately, family and friends, though well meaning,
may have their own agendas for you. One of the essential
components of this change is that it is based on YOU: your
clarity, your dreams and what you want. It is vital that you
determine who in your life allows you to discover what you want
and go to them. Basing your own self- development program on
what YOU want is the first step in building self- confidence
again. Make sure they have your best interests at heart and not
just what they think you need. If this does not seem to be
available, see if you have a trusted clergy member, a counselor,
a support group, or a good coach. I believe you need ample time
to discover what it is that you want next and do all you can to
The greater your willingness to forgive yourself, the greater
will be your enthusiasm and creativity in moving forward. Many
people harbor feelings of failure about their divorce. Many
blame themselves and continue to go over all that they might
have done differently. Self-judgment is like the cross-current
that will immediately send you off course. It is the one thing
that can destroy your self-confidence and any creative idea you
may have for the future. It is often a natural way to deal with
all of the chaos and upheaval- we immediately blame ourselves or
our spouse. It is a negative attempt to gain control. But
effectively it defeats your dreams and keeps you tied to the
past. Look for ways to forgive and nurture yourself; defend
yourself against any of your self-judgments. Essentially, they
are untrue and you can move past them. My soon-to-be launched
Audio/Workbook program can give you the tools you need to deal
Discover What You Want:
Often in very important relationships our identity becomes so
entwined with another that when it ends we are not sure who we
are. This perceived loss of self is actually the deepest pain of
the separation. You need time to rediscover yourself outside of
the relationship. You require enough space and peace to be able
to envision a new, bright future. Right now you may be using
your imagination to see all of the possible negative outcomes.
The important thing for you to realize here is that you are
using your imagination to support these old thoughts and
actions. Our imaginations are an amazingly powerful and creative
tool. See if you can begin to use it to support you not hobble
Start by letting yourself imagine what you would like to see in
your new life. Take a moment right now, close your eyes, take a
few breaths and consider one thing you would like to change. Use
your imagination to envision or sense it already in your life.
Let yourself feel what it would be like to have it already in
place. Use the inspiration of that to fuel your actions.
Action the Change:
Now the next important thing is to start actioning that change.
Change does not happen unless you take targeted action. If you
need help seeing how to practice making change you can sign up
for my F.r.e.e eClass that will lead you through the basic steps
of change. You can click here
http://www.conniebutler.biz/change_signup.php to sign up for
this F.r.e.e. eClass and download it immediately. You can start
making those changes right now. Use the principles in this class
to start making smaller changes so you can build the inner
strength and resolve needed to make the larger changes
Good, targeted reading can add another level of support to
action. You can access some books to support you here:
As you look at your current life and envision what you want
choose one area that you wish to change. What do you need as
support to make that change? You may need to access a quality
within yourself. The quality may be courage or faith or
strength. You may need the courage to try something new. You may
need the faith to believe the change is possible. And you may
need the strength to take the action required. Start developing
the quality that will most leverage the change you want.
Who or what might help you take the action. Perhaps you need a
buddy. Someone who encourages you and to whom you are
accountable. Do all you can to put that support in place. One of
the things I see in my work with clients is the necessity to
notice the smallest increments of change. When you notice change
as you are taking action your motivation for more action
Continue to envision the change you want. Eventually the
momentum of action will increase and you will find yourself
moving along the line of growth and action that will bring
substantive change into your life. This is one of the most
important transitions of your life. Give yourself all you need
to create the life that will bring you the satisfaction and
fulfillment. In the process you can also access my eBook
“Thriving After Divorce – 3 Key Principles for Creating a
Fantastic Life in 30 Days” at
“Nothing will change until you change. Everything will change
when you change.”~ Lou DiCaprio
About the author:
Connie Butler is a personal and professional coach working with
individuals and groups to clarify their greatest vision and
cultivate its successful realization moving them past their
growth frontier into new territory. She is available for
personal or professional coaching, seminars and can be reached
at 305-534-1119 or firstname.lastname@example.org Ms. Butler is an
international coach, published author and radio personality.
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